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Unveiling the true meaning of masculinity: A Review of JJ Bola’s “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined”

Mask of by JJ Bola
Popular culture
11 October, 2019

In the world today, there is a lot of confusion surrounding what it means to be a man. Society has imposed certain expectations and norms on men, which can be damaging to their mental and emotional well-being. In his book, “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined,” JJ Bola critically examines these societal expectations and critiques traditional masculinity.

Author background and context

JJ Bola is a Congolese-British poet, writer, and educator. He has written several books, including “No Place to Call Home” and “Word.” In “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined,” Bola draws on his personal experiences and cultural background to explore the complexities of masculinity. His writing is honest, vulnerable, and thought-provoking, making this book a must-read for anyone interested in understanding the true meaning of masculinity.

Overview of “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined”

“Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is a collection of essays, poetry, and personal reflections on masculinity. Bola’s writing is raw, emotional, and unapologetic. He tackles complex topics such as toxic masculinity, male privilege, and the impact of patriarchy on men’s mental health. The book is divided into four sections, each exploring a different aspect of masculinity.




The first section, “The Mask,” looks at the societal expectations placed on men and the pressure to conform to traditional masculine norms. Bola argues that these expectations are harmful and often result in men masking their true selves to fit in. The second section, “The Mirror,” explores the impact of patriarchy on men’s mental health and the importance of vulnerability and self-reflection.

The third section, “The Knife,” delves into the issue of violence and aggression in men. Bola argues that violence is often a result of toxic masculinity and the belief that men must be dominant and aggressive. Finally, the fourth section, “The Heart,” focuses on the importance of emotional intelligence and the need for men to embrace their emotions and express them in healthy ways.

Key themes and messages of the book

One of the key themes of “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is the idea that traditional masculinity is harmful to men. Bola argues that the pressure to conform to masculine norms can lead to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. He also critiques the idea that men must be dominant and competitive, arguing that this leads to aggression and violence.

Another key theme of the book is the importance of vulnerability and emotional intelligence. Bola argues that men need to embrace their emotions and express them in healthy ways. He also emphasises the importance of self-reflection and introspection to understand oneself and others better.

The book’s message is that there is no one way to be a man. Masculinity is not a fixed concept but is rather fluid and ever-changing. Bola encourages men to take off their masks and embrace their true selves, even if that means going against societal expectations.




Critiques of traditional masculinity and societal expectations

One of the most significant critiques of traditional masculinity that Bola presents in “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is the idea that it is harmful to men. He argues that the pressure to conform to masculine norms can lead to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Bola also notes that traditional masculinity often leads to aggression and violence, which is a significant problem in society.

Another critique that Bola presents is the idea that masculinity is a fixed concept. He argues that masculinity is fluid and ever-changing and that there is no one way to be a man. Bola notes that societal expectations of masculinity are often unrealistic and that men are forced to mask their true selves in order to fit in.

Personal experiences and perspectives shared in the book

One of the most powerful aspects of “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is the personal experiences and perspectives that Bola shares. He writes about his experiences growing up as a Congolese-British man and the challenges he faced in reconciling his cultural background with societal expectations of masculinity. Bola also shares stories from his personal life, including his struggles with mental health and the importance of vulnerability and emotional intelligence.

“Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is a powerful and thought-provoking book that challenges traditional ideas of masculinity. JJ Bola’s writing is honest, vulnerable, and unapologetic, making this book a must-read for anyone interested in understanding the complexities of masculinity. By critiquing traditional masculinity and societal expectations, Bola encourages men to remove their masks and embrace their true selves.




If you’re looking for a book that will challenge your perspective on masculinity and inspire you to be your authentic self, “Mask Off: Masculinity Defined” is the book for you. You can buy it on Amazon or wherever you like to buy your books. 

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